Why do we reward individuals who are negative and give them additional time and attention?

When I first began speaking, I remember during a Q & A session of “Smash the Box” being put on the spot by a man who was sitting in the back of the room.  His body language was negative and he clearly didn’t like me or the presentation.  He made a negative comment about one of the techniques in my keynote address and I spent the next 10 minutes placating this man and giving him my undivided attention.

As I left the keynote address and went back to my car to drive home I said to myself, “never again.”  Never again would I allow one person to have that much power over me and the entire audience.  Furthermore, it wasn’t fair to the other people in the room who were engaged, inspired, and wanted to change.

We must remember that comments, whether positive or negative, are just opinions from individuals and it is the weight you and I put on them that gives them power.  The power is created by the time and attention we devote to that person or his/her comment. Do you give men and women too much power, especially, if it is negative?

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